Followingthesupper,herhusbandwentintothekitchentocleanup.Shenoticedthatasecondcardhadfallenfromhispocket.Pickingitoffthefloor,sheread:「Don』tworryaboutnotgettingtheraise!Youdeserveitanyway!ThesethingswilltellyouhowmuchIloveyou.」
Someonehassaidthatthemeasureofloveiswhenyoulovewithoutmeasure.Whatthismanfeelsforhisspouseistotalacceptanceandlove,whethershesucceedsorfails.Hislovecelebrateshervictoriesandsoothesherwounds.Hestandswithher,nomatterwhatlifethrowsintheirdirection.
UponreceivingtheNobelPeacePrize,MotherTeresasaid:「Whatcanyoudotopromoteworldpeace?Gohomeandloveyourfamily.」Andloveyourfriends.Lovethemwithoutmeasure.
弗裡達·布賴特說過：「只有在歌劇中，人們才會為愛而死。」這是千真萬確的。的確，你不會因為愛一個人而死。我知道有人因為缺乏愛而死，可我從來沒有聽說過誰因被愛而死。我們恰好是相互之間愛也愛不夠。
有一個感人的故事，講的是有個女人終於決定去向老闆提出加薪的要求。她一整天都焦慮不安。下午晚些時候，她鼓起勇氣向老闆提議。讓她感到高興的是，老闆同意給她加薪。
當晚，女人回家後，發現漂亮的餐桌上已經擺滿了豐盛的菜餚，燭光在輕輕地搖曳著。丈夫提早回家準備了一頓慶祝宴。她心想，會不會是辦公室裡有人向他通風報信了呢？或者……他不知怎麼的竟知道她不會被拒絕？
她在廚房找到了他，告訴了他這個好消息。他們擁抱親吻，然後坐下來共享美餐。在她的盤子旁邊，女人看到了一張字跡優美的便條。上面寫著：「祝賀你，親愛的！我就知道你會加薪的。我為你做的這一切會告訴你，我有多麼愛你。」
晚餐後，丈夫到廚房洗碗。她注意到又有張卡片從他口袋裡掉了出來。她把卡片從地板上揀起來，念道：「不要因為沒有加薪而煩惱！不管怎樣，是該給你加薪了！我為你做的這一切會告訴你，我有多麼愛你。」
有人曾經說過，愛的限度就是無限度地去愛。不管妻子成功還是失敗，這個男人都給予她完全的包容和愛。他的愛慶祝她的勝利，也撫平她的創傷。不管生活的道路上遇到什麼，他們始終同舟共濟。
特蕾莎修女在接受諾貝爾和平獎時說道：「你能為促進世界和平做些什麼呢？回家愛你的家人吧。」還要愛你的朋友。愛他們無止境。
Marriage,LoveAndFreedom婚姻、愛與自由
Youareasking,「Isitpossibletobemarriedandtobefree?」
Ifyoutakemarriagenon-seriously,thenyoucanbefree.Ifyoutakeitseriously,thenfreedomisimpossible.Takemarriagejustasagame—itisagame.Havealittlesenseofhumor,thatitisaroleyouareplayingonthestageoflife;butitisnotsomethingthatbelongstoexistenceorhasanyreality—itisafiction.
Butpeoplearesostupidthattheyevenstarttakingfictionforreality.Ihaveseenpeoplereadingfictionwithtearsintheireyes,becauseinthefictionthingsaregoingsotragically.Itisaverygooddeviceinthemoviesthattheyputthelightsoff,soeverybodycanenjoythemovie,laugh,cry,besadandbehappy.Iftherewaslightitwouldbealittledifficult—whatwillothersthink?Andtheyknowperfectlywellthatthescreenisempty—thereisnobody;itisjustaprojectedpicture.Buttheyforgetitcompletely.
Andthesamehashappenedwithourlives.Manythingswhicharesimplytobetakenhumorously,wetakesoseriously—andfromthatseriousnessbeginsourproblem.
Inthefirstplace,whyshouldyougetmarried?Youlovesomeone,livewithsomeone—itispartofyourbasicrights.Youcanlivewithsomeone,youcanlovesomeone.
Marriageisnotsomethingthathappensinheaven,ithappenshere,throughthecraftypriests.Butifyouwanttojointhegamewithsocietyanddon』twanttostandaloneandaloof,youmakeitcleartoyourwifeortoyourhusbandthatthismarriageisjustagame:「Nevertakeitseriously.IwillremainasindependentasIwasbeforemarriage,andyouwillremainasindependentasyouwerebeforemarriage.NeitherIamgoingtointerfereinyourlife,norareyougoingtointerfereinmylife;wewillliveastwofriendstogether,sharingourjoys,sharingourfreedom—butnotbecomingaburdenoneachother.Andanymomentwefeelthatthespringhaspassed,thehoneymoonisover,wewillbesincereenoughnottogoonpretending,buttosaytoeachotherthatwelovedmuch—andwewillremaingratefultoeachotherforever,andthedaysoflovewillhauntusinourmemories,inourdreams,asgolden—butthespringisover.Ourpathshavecometoapoint,wherealthoughitissad,wehavetopart,becausenow,livingtogetherisnotasignoflove.IfIloveyou,IwillleaveyouthemomentIseemylovehasbecomeamiserytoyou.Ifyouloveme,youwillleavemethemomentyouseethatyourloveiscreatinganimprisonmentforme.」
Loveisthehighestvalueinlife:Itshouldnotbereducedtostupidrituals.Andloveandfreedomgotogether—youcannotchooseoneandleavetheother.Amanwhoknowsfreedomisfulloflove,andamanwhoknowsloveisalwayswillingtogivefreedom.Ifyoucannotgivefreedomtothepersonyoulove,towhomcanyougivefreedom?Givingfreedomisnothingbuttrusting.Freedomisanexpressionoflove.
Sowhetheryouaremarriedornot,remember,allmarriagesarefake—justsocialconveniences.Theirpurposeisnottoimprisonyouandbindyoutoeachother;theirpurposeistohelpyoutogrowwitheachother.Butgrowthneedsfreedom;andinthepast,allthecultureshaveforgottenthatwithoutfreedom,lovedies.
Youseeabirdonthewinginthesun,inthesky,anditlookssobeautiful.Attractedbyitsbeauty,youcancatchthebirdandputitinagoldencage.