GettingPastthePotholesofLife
?凱文·霍拉維/KevinHolloway
WhenIwasgrowingupinSt.Louis,mymotherandfatherstressedtomethatinordertosucceedinlifeyoumusthavepatience.Takeyourtimeandobserveallthings,theysaid.IwishIhadlistenedtowhatmymotherandfathersaidaboutpatience.Withoutpatienceyouwillpassupsomanyopportunitiesinlife!
IwishthatIhadpracticedpatience.Iusedtoracethroughlifelikeathiefinthenightwithoutstoppingtothinkofthedangersorconsequencesofmyactions.It』slikeIwasleapingintotheoceanwithoutknowingitsdepth.It』stimeslikethatIwishedIwerelikeadeerfrozeninacar』sheadlights.ThenIwouldhavehadatleastamomenttothinkaboutwhattodo.
Ilearnedthatpatienceissomethingyoumusthavebecausein1997Ididn』thavethepatiencetostayinschoolandfinishstudy.IwassoinarushtoskipclassandplaywithmyfriendsthatIletmyimpatiencegetthebetterofme,andIletmyhighschooldiplomaflyby.
Ilostmyfathertoaheartattackin1988.TwoyearslaterIlostmymotherfromastroke.IwishnowthatIhadtakenthetimetoshowthemthelovetheyshowedme.ThebiggestthingInoticedwasthatIhadn』treallypaidattentiontomylifeandIdidn』trealizehowimportantthepeoplewereinmylife.
Aftertheydied,IwenttostaywithmyAuntie,andIstayedwithherfortwomonthsbeforeacustodybattlebeganwiththecourts.Theytriedtoputmeintoafosterhome,butmyAuntiefoughtforfourstraightmonthstokeepmewithher.Sonow,Istilllivewithher.
NowthatIhavethepatiencetositandlearn,Iseethingsdifferently.Forexample,Itookthetimetositdownandmakeablueprintofthemistakesandthepoordecisionsthatmyimpatiencecausedmeovertheyears.
Ihavemadethedecisiontoreturntoschool,becauseIgottiredofracingthroughlifewithoutaneducation.InowattendtheG.E.D.programatCovenantHouseinSt.Louis,Missouri.EachmorningItakeafive-minutebusridetotheMetrolink,thenatwenty-minuteridetotheGrandStationontheMetrolink,thenanotherten-minutebusridetogettomyclass—twobusesandonetraintogettoschooleachday.IcomeherebecauseIliketheeducationthatCovenantHouseprovides,becausetheadultstakethetimetoreallysitdownandhelpyouwiththepotholesofyourlife.NowthatIhavethepatiencetositandlearn,Iseethingsdifferently.
NowmygoalistogetmyG.E.D.andbuildasolidfoundationformyself.Writingthispaperhascausedmetothinkaboutslowingdownandlookingatthewholeperspectiveofmylife,notfocusingonthetemptingthingssuchasfancycars,clothes,andimmaterialthings.Instead,Iplantofocusoneducation,knowledgeofmanyculturesandbackgrounds,theheritageoftheUnitedStates,andotherimportantthingsthatwillhelpmetobecomeawell-spokenbusinessmaninmycity.
我成長於聖路易斯,父母經常對我強調這樣一句話:「要想做出一番成就,你就必須要有耐心。」他們會說:「珍惜時間,用心觀察。」我多麼希望當初能夠聽從父母那些關於耐心的話呀!缺乏耐心,你就會錯過人生中的許多機會。
我多麼希望當初能有耐心呀!過去的生活匆匆而逝,我就如夜間的賊,根本沒有停下來思考自己行為的危險性及後果;我就像跳入了大海,卻不知道海水有多深一樣。有許多次,我都希望自己能像汽車燈前駐足的小鹿,至少有那麼一點兒時間,可以容我思考下一步該如何去走。
我明白耐心是必備的東西,因為在1997年,我沒有耐心留在學校完成學業,總是想著逃課和朋友們玩樂。結果,我的不耐煩毀掉了我的一些優點,高中畢業證也泡湯了。
1988年,心臟病奪走了父親的生命。兩年後,母親又死於一種突發病。如今,我對沒有抓緊時間回報他們給予我的愛而後悔莫及。我意識到的最大問題就是,我沒有在意我的生活,沒有意識到這些人在我的生命中有多麼重要。
父母去世後,我就和姑媽一起住。兩個月以後,姑媽與法院展開了一場監護權的爭鬥。法院想要把我送到寄養家庭去,終於,姑媽通過四個月的積極爭取,把我留在了她的身旁。時至今日,我仍然和她生活在一起。
如今我可以耐心地坐下來學習,看事物的角度也發生了改變。例如,我利用一些時間,坐下來細細分析總結了過去這些年來因缺乏耐心而導致的錯誤和所作出的糟糕決定。
我決定重返校園,因為我已經厭倦了這種匆忙的生活方式,厭倦了不受教育的生活。現在,我參加了密蘇里州聖路易斯盟約大樓的普通教育學位活動。每天早上,我都要坐5分鐘的公共汽車到梅特羅林克,然後坐20分鐘火車到中心火車站,最後再坐10分鐘的公共汽車才能到班上。也就是說,我每天都要倒兩次汽車、一次火車才能到學校。我之所以到這裡來,就是因為我喜歡盟約大樓所提供的教育方式,有人真正地花一些時間真正地坐在那裡,來幫助你戰勝生活中的挫折。我可以耐心地坐下來學習,因此看事物的角度也有了變化。
現在,獲取這個學位和為自己打下堅實的基礎就是我的目標。寫這篇文章能夠使我放慢腳步思考,把生活的全部看清楚,而不是僅僅將目光局限在那些有誘惑力的東西上,如名車、時裝以及一些無關緊要的東西。與之相反的是,我計劃把精力集中在教育、不同文化背景的知識、美國傳統,以及其他能夠幫助我成為這個城市能言善辯的商人的重要內容上。
1.It』s_______Iwasleapingintotheoceanwithoutknowingits_______.It』stimeslikethatthatIwishedIwerelikea_______frozeninacar』sheadlights.ThenIwouldhavehadat_______amomenttothinkabout______todo.
2._______theydied,IwenttostaywithmyAuntie,andI_______withherfortwomonthsbeforeacustodybattlebegan_______thecourts.Theytriedtoputmeintoafoster_______,butmyAuntiefoughtforfourstraightmonthsto_______mewithher.Sonow,I_______livewithher.
3.Ihave_______thedecisiontoreturntoschool,becauseIgot______ofracingthroughlifewithout_______education.
1.要想做出一番成就,你就必須要有耐心。
2.我明白耐心是人必備的東西。
3.因為我可以耐心地坐下來學習,看事物的角度也有了變化。
1.IwishthatIhadpracticedpatience.
Iwishthat:但願
2becauseIgottiredofracingthroughlifewithoutaneducation.
gettiredofdoingsth.:厭倦做某事