Thesamegoesforthecompliment.Whenyousincerelycomplimentapersonorextendhimacourtesy,heisgoingtoreceiveadirectbenefitandlikehimselfbetter.Itisimpossibleforyoutomakesomeonefeelbetterandnofeelbetteryourself.
當你對別人微笑，別人也會對你報以微笑，你自然會感覺很棒。即使他沒有對你報以微笑，你也會感覺很棒，因為你認識到世界上最貧窮的人就是從不微笑的人，當你對那個人微笑，你立刻變得更加富有。
讚美也是這個道理。當你真誠地讚揚抑或恭維一個人時，他將立刻受益，更喜歡自己。當你讓別人感覺更好時，你自己也會感覺更好。
TobeGratefulinOurLife感恩的心
OncePresidentRoosevelt』shousewasbrokenintoandlotsofthingswerestolen.Hearingthis,oneofRoosevelt』sfriendswrotetohimandadvisedhimnottotakeittohisheartsomuch.PresidentRooseveltwrotebackimmediately,saying,」Dearfriend,thankyouforyourlettertocomfortme.I』mallrightnow.IthinkIshouldthankGod.Thisisbecauseofthefollowingthreereasons:firstly,thethiefonlystolethingsfrommebutdidnothurtmeatall;secondly,thethiefhasstolensomeofmythingsinsteadofallmythings;thirdly,mostluckilyforme,itwasthemanratherthanmewhobecameathief…」ItwasquiteunluckyforanyonetobestolenfromHowever,PresidentRoosevelthadsuchthreereasonstobesograteful.Thisstorytellsushowwecanlearntobegratefulinourlife.
Beinggratefulisanimportantphilosophyoflifeandagreatwisdom.Itisimpossibleforanyonetobeluckyandsuccessfulallthetimesolongashelivesintheworld.Weshouldlearnhowtofacefailureormisfortunebravelyandgenerouslyandtotrytodealwithit.Ifso,shouldwecomplainaboutourlifeandbecomefrustratedanddisappointedeversincethenorshouldwebegratefulforourlife,riseagainourselvesafterafall?WilliamThackeray,afamousBritishwriter,said,「Lifeisamirror.Whenyousmileinfrontofit,itwillalsosmileandsowillitwhenyoucrytoit.」Ifyouaregratefultolife,itwillbringyoushiningsunlight.Ifyoualwayscomplainabouteverything,youmayownnothingintheend.Whenwearesuccessful,wecansurelyhavemanyreasonsforbeinggrateful,butwehaveonlyoneexcusetoshowungratefulnessifwefail.
Ithinkweshouldevenbegratefultolifewheneverweareunsuccessfulorunlucky.Onlybydoingthiscanwefindourweaknessandshortcomingswhenwefail.Wecanalsogetreliefandwarmthwhenweareunlucky.Thiscanhelpusfindourcouragetoovercomethedifficultieswemayface,andreceivegreatimpetustomoveon.WeshouldtreatourfrustrationandmisfortuneinourlifeintheotherwayjustasPresidentRooseveltdid.Weshouldbegratefulallthetimeandkeephavingahealthyattitudetoourlifeforever,keephavingperfectcharactersandenterprisingspirit.Beinggratefulisnotonlyakindofcomfort,notanescapefromlifeandnorthinkingofwinninginspiritlikeAhQ.Beinggratefulisawaytosingforourlifewhichcomesjustfromourloveandhope.
Whenweputasmallpieceofalumintomuddywater,wecanseethealumcansoonmakethewaterclear.Ifeachofushasanattitudeofbeinggrateful,we』llbeabletogetridofimpulse,upset,dissatisfactionandmisfortune.Beinggratefulcanbringusabetterandmorebeautifullife.
美國總統羅斯福的家曾經失竊，財物損失嚴重。朋友聞此消息，就寫信來安慰他，勸他不必把這件事放在心上。羅斯福總統很快回信說：「親愛的朋友，謝謝你來信安慰我，我一切都很好。我想我應該感謝上帝，因為：第一，我損失的只是財物，而人卻毫髮未損；第二，我只損失了部分財物，而非所有財產；第三，最幸運的是，做小偷的是那個人，而不是我……」對任何人來說，家中失竊絕非幸事。但是，羅斯福總統卻能找到三個感恩的理由。這個故事告訴我們，生活中，我們應該學會感恩。
感恩是一項重要的處世哲學，是生活的大智慧。人生在世，不可能事事順通。對於各種失敗和不幸，我們要豁達大度，勇敢地面對，並想辦法解決。面對困難，我們是懊惱抱怨、沮喪氣餒，陷入絕望，還是對生活滿懷感恩之心，跌倒後再爬起來呢？英國著名作家威廉·薩克雷說過，「生活是一面鏡子，你對它笑，它也會對你笑；你對他哭，它也會對你哭。」如果對生活感恩，你的生命將充滿燦爛的陽光；如果一味怨恨，終將一無所獲。我們成功時，有千萬個理由感恩生活，而失敗時，只要一個借口就會表現出忘恩負義。
我想，不論是遭遇失敗還是不幸，我們都應該感謝生活。只有這樣，失敗後，我們才能發現自己的缺點和不足，不幸時，我們還能感受到安慰和溫暖。這些就能幫我們找回勇氣，戰勝困難，並獲取前進的強大推動力。我們應像羅斯福總統那樣，換一個角度去看待生活中的失敗和挫折，永遠對生活充滿感恩，才能時刻保持健康的心態，積極地生活，並能保持完美的人格和不斷進取的精神。感恩不僅僅是一種精神慰藉，也不是對現實的規避，更不是阿Q的精神勝利法。感恩源於我們對生活的熱愛和希望，它是我們歌頌生活的一種方式。
把一小塊明礬放入混沌的水中，我們發現，水很快就澄清了。如果人人都有一顆感恩的心，就能沉澱許多的浮躁和不安，消融許多的不滿和不幸。感恩能讓我們的生活變得更加美好。
TheColorsofFriendship友誼的顏色
Mothers』EightLies一個母親一生撒的8個謊言
Asachild,thelittleboyverypoorfamily,food,riceisoftennotenoughtoeat,hismothertookthebowlofricetothechildrentoeat.Saidthemother,children,eatfast,Ihungry!—Scatterhismother』sfirstlie.
Boy』sbodyalongtime,hard-workingmothersusedthetimetorestSundayintheruralcountyinruralareas,fishingsomeriverstofishforchildrencalciumsupplements.Goodtoeatfish,fishsoupisveryfresh.Thechildreneatingfish,themotherisonthesideeatingfishbones,tonguelickingthefishmarinatedmeatonthebones.Feelbadboy,puthisbowloffishbowlfoldertothemothers,motherseatingfish.Mothersdonoteat,themotheralsousechopstickstofishfolderbacktotheboy'sbowl.Saidthemother,child,eatfast,Idonotlikefish!—Scatterhismother』ssecondlie.