Loneliness
佚名/Anonymous
Amanisknownbythecompanyhekeepstheysay.Ifitisso,theneveryoneisboundtohavetheirbaggageoflonelinesswiththemascompanions.Lonelinessisnotsomethingthatdoesn』texistatallwithanyhumanbeingonearth.Everyhumanbeingfeelslonelyinhislifeatsomepointorother.It』sbutnaturaltohavesuchfeelings,becausethat』swhatmakesusallhumanandthatiswhyweareaswearenow.
Ifweshedsomelightonwhywefeelalooforlonelyattimes,wewouldbeverymuchastonishedorevenprobablysurprisedbytheresults.Weourselvesareresponsibleforourself-definedgloominess.Thisisbecauseattimeswereallyfeelthatweareuncaredfororfeelsomeonedoesn』tunderstandus.
Sometimesweoveranalyzereallifesituationsandhavethisgrowingsenseofselfpityinsideus.Thisfeelingalwaysgivesusthoughtswhichpicturizeusalwaysreceivingthewrongendofthestickinlife.Thetruthmightnotalwaysbetrueifwetouchourheartandsee.It』sjustthatourexpectationsinlifeandfrompeoplearoundusorcircumstancesthatwearefacing,havegotthebetterofus.Expectationisthesilentkillerwhichmurdersmillionsofmushyandtimetestedrelationships.Iftherewouldhavebeennoexpectationsfromanyone,theworldwouldhavebeenamuchbetterplacetobe.Iftherewouldhavebeennoexpectations,notmanypeoplewouldhavehadanachingheartandalifelonggrouseagainsttherewouldhavebeenbetterhalves.Ifitwouldn』thavebeenforunreasonableexpectationsnotmanycoupleswouldhavedivorcedeachother.
Howtocomeoutofexpectationsthen?Goodquestion.Theansweriswhenyougivesomething,don』texpectanythinginreturn.Whenourmothergavebirthtous,sheneverexpectedthatwewillgivebirthtoher.Shehasjustfulfilledherdesiretoraiseafamilyandliveforthem.Inthesameway,letouractionsmakeusliveforourselfandletnotexpectationscrewupthemajorportionofyourlives.Letushavethefreedomandwillpowertoexpressourlove,affectionandlongingnessforpeoplewheneverwefeel.Letusnotrestrictourfreedomofexpressionjustbecauseheorsheisnotrespondingthewaywewantthemto.
Wellallinallalittlebitoflonelinessisgoodforaself-analysistokeepacheckoveryouractions.Introspectionalwaysmakesyoucommunicatewiththeinnerself.Buttoomuchofintrospectioncanmakeyouscalethealtitudeofselfpity.Soshowrestrainattherighttime.
人們說，一個人總會被他周邊的人所瞭解，若果真如此，每個人都一定會有與孤獨為伴之時。每個人都會有孤獨感，在一生中的某個時刻備感孤獨。有這樣的感覺很自然，正是這種感覺使我們稱其為人，並塑造了現在的我們。
若我們洞悉孤獨感產生的原因，其結果會出乎我們的意料，甚至會令我們吃驚。沮喪是我們自己造成的，有時我們的確有不被關心、不被理解的失落感。
我們分析情況有時會誇大事實，不免產生自憐之感。這種感覺常會使我們產生一種錯覺。捫心自問，真相並非總是真實。它們僅僅是我們對周圍的人和環境的一種理想的期待。期待是沉默的殺手，它使無數模糊的概念和人與人之間的關係歷經時間的考驗。倘若任何人都沒有期待，世界將會更加美好。沒有期待，就不會有那麼多心痛之人，也就不會有一生之久的怨艾。如果沒有那些不合理的期待，就不會有那麼多的夫妻離異。
那麼，如何擺脫期待呢？這是一個很好的問題。其答案是，當你給予別人某物時，不要期待得到回報。當母親給予我們生命的時候，從未指望過我們也給她生命，她只是實現了擁有一個家庭並為家人而活的願望。同樣，不要讓你生命中的大部分被期望所佔據，讓我們為自己而活。把我們的愛、感動與渴望盡量自由地表達出來。在沒能得到我們所期待的回應時，也不要限制自己去自由地表達感情。
總之，略微的孤獨感對自省是有益的。自省有助於你與心靈的交流。但過度自省，則會令我們有遺憾的感覺。所以，還是適度為好。
每個人都會有孤獨感，在一生中的某個時刻備感孤獨。有這樣的感覺很自然，正是這種感覺使我們稱其為人，並塑造了現在的我們。
1.Everyhumanbeinglonelyinhislifeatsomepointor.It』sbutnaturaltohavesuchfeelings,that』swhatmakesusallhumanthatiswhyweareaswearenow.
2.Weourselvesareresponsibleourself-definedgloominess.Thisbecauseattimeswereallyfeelthatareuncaredfororsomeonedoesn』tunderstandus.
3.Shehasfulfilledherdesiretoraiseafamilyandliveforthem.Intheway,letouractionsmakeliveforourselfandletnotexpectationscrewuptheportionofyourlives.
1.期待是沉默的殺手，它使無數模糊的概念和人與人之間的關係歷經時間的考驗。
2.沒有期待，就不會有那麼多心痛之人，也就不會有一生之久的怨艾。
3.當你給予別人某物時，不要期待得到回報。
1.Ifitisso,theneveryoneisboundtohavetheirbaggageofloneliness
beboundto：必然；不得不；束縛於；必須
2.Expectationisthesilentkillerwhichmurdersmillionsofmushy
millionsof：成百萬的；許許多多的